Holding Space for the Holidays
The holiday season is often painted in broad strokes of joy, reunion, and warmth. We are told it’s the "most wonderful time of the year." But for many, this season shines a harsh spotlight on what—or who—is missing.
If you are dreading the upcoming weeks, we want you to know first and foremost: You are not alone in that feeling.
The reality is that this year, roughly 14 million Americans will spend Christmas alone. Almost half of those individuals are facing isolation due to family conflict or simply being too far away from loved ones.
At Mirkat Impact, we believe deeply in the power of mental health advocacy and the importance of acknowledging hard truths. We know that for many in our community—especially our youth navigating trauma or adverse experiences—the holidays can feel less like a celebration and more like an endurance test.
It is vital that we learn to "hold space" for ourselves and others during this time. Holding space means showing up with unconditional support and letting go of judgment. It means allowing feelings to exist without trying to fix them immediately.
If you are facing a lonely holiday season, here are three trauma-informed tips to help manage the weight of it:
1. Give Yourself Permission to Grieve (or Just "Be")
There is immense pressure to perform happiness during the holidays. The greatest gift you can give yourself is permission to drop the act. If you are grieving a loss, a strained relationship, or just the distance from family, acknowledge that pain. You do not have to force cheer. It is okay to treat the day like any other Tuesday if that is what you need to survive it. Validate your own feelings; they are real, and they matter.
2. Redefine Connection and "Chosen Family"
Loneliness often stems from a gap between the connections we want and the connections we have. If biological family isn't an option due to conflict or distance, look toward your "chosen family." Connection doesn't have to look like a traditional dinner table. It could be a phone call with an old friend, volunteering in your community, or spending time with peers who understand your journey.
3. Find Anchors in Routine and Self-Care
When the world around you feels chaotic with holiday expectations, anchor yourself in small, manageable routines. Sleep, nourishment, and movement become even more critical when emotional reserves are low. Be gentle with yourself. Self-care isn't selfish; it's a necessary strategy for resilience.
We Are Here to Hold Space With You
At Mirkat Impact, we are more than a nonprofit; we are a movement dedicated to ensuring no one has to navigate their darkest moments alone. We build supportive, service-oriented communities designed to foster resilience.
If you are a young person struggling right now, please reach out. We have programming designed specifically to hold space for you, including a dedicated Grief Group for those navigating loss.
We also believe that connection and purpose are antidotes to isolation.
Youth (ages 13-22): If you are looking for a place to belong and lead, consider joining our Youth Leadership Board.
Adults: If you have the capacity to hold space for others, consider volunteering with us.
Everyone: You can help us ensure these vital mental health resources remain available by donating to the Impact Fund.
This holiday season, let’s commit to holding space—for ourselves, and for each other. You are seen, and you are part of our community.
